{Gist} Parents are not meant to be Blamed

The term biological parent refers to a parent who is the biological mother or father of an individual. While an individual's parents are often also their biological parents, it is seldom used unless there is an explicit difference between who acted as a parent for that individual and the person from whom they inherit half of their genes. For example, a person whose father has remarried may call his new wife their stepmother and continue to refer to their mother normally, though someone who has had little or no contact with their biological mother may address their foster parent as their mother, and their biological mother as such, or perhaps by her first name.

When we were little, most of us assumed our parents are good at their jobs, it doesnt really occur to us that they dont always know what they are doing, But as we are getting older, we notice that our friends parents do things a bit differently. Maybe we are envious of them, or maybe we think we are the lucky ones. But probably as we get older it will start to dawn on us that our parents are getting some bits really really wrong.
This was what happened to me , i realized that my father was seriously bucking the trend by not actually being there for me at all. Before not long , i realized that my mother was in very different ways similarly hopeless, and she struggled to cope or to show affections towards me.
Now, in my case, things were sufficiently bad that i had to face up to them. Either i spend my life bitterly blaming my parents for almost all of my problems, or i move on. I then chose to recognize that my mother was just not even slightly cut out to be a parent, and that for someone like her, being a single parent to six children was too big a task. Maybe my mother realized too late that being a parent wasnt her thing.
I forgave her and got on with my life, It really saved me from becoming bitter and twisted, and it enabled me to put right the damage in a positive frame of mind. Funny enough, its often the people with the best parents who find it hardest to stop blaming them for the odd shortcoming, if your parents are basically pretty good at the job, its somehow tempting to blame them for not being absolutely perfect.
Your parents are only human, and its very likely that somewhere along the way they did few things that caused you real upset or difficulties.
Its too late to put things right by blaming your parents, but its not too late to let it go, recognize that their heart were in the right place, and quietly sort out any residual damage to yourself.